I often think back to my childhood in Scotland and summers spent on the Hebridean islands, where life moved with the rhythm of the tides and the changing seasons. Growing up in this culturally rich environment, deeply connected to my Welsh and Scottish heritage, I unknowingly absorbed the ancient healing traditions that had been passed down through generations. My family’s intuitive connection to the earth and spirit laid the foundation for my life’s work, though at the time, I had no idea how important it would become.
While my upbringing was spiritually nourishing in some ways, I also witnessed the struggles my parents faced as they sought to build ‘successful’ lives away from their villages and the close-knit communities that had sustained them. I was surrounded by traditional relationships—ones built over years. Through a child’s eyes, the partnerships in my communities were solid, supportive, and steady. This disconnect from deep-rooted support systems echoed in my own journey, leaving me searching for a sense of worth and belonging.
Like many women, I spent my early adulthood feeling lost in a series of unfulfilling relationships. Partners came and went—some cheated, while others, I emotionally withdrew from. I had an image of the perfect partnership and life, shaped by my parents’ ambitions of comfortable living and success. But in reality, my childhood was defined by moving from place to place, unable to put down roots. It made me restless. I would stay with a guy for a couple of years, become dissatisfied, and eventually realize our lives didn’t match my parents’ ambitions for me. Yet, I still craved adventure and creativity in my relationships. It was only later that I realized these patterns reflected my own internal struggles. I had been living with a deep sense of inadequacy, shaped by emotional scars from childhood, and my difficulty in fully valuing myself. Without a sense of self-worth, I couldn’t attract the love I deserved.
A pivotal moment came when I entered what seemed to be the perfect relationship. After a previous relationship ended in heartbreak, I was vulnerable, and along came a man who seemed to have it all—confidence, charm, and a life full of excitement. He proposed after just six weeks, showering me with praise and promises of adventure. I was 32, and the idea of marriage felt like a relief, a way out of the endless dating cycle.
We eloped at Christmas, marrying in a tiny church in a Scottish glen, announcing our union to our families on Christmas Day. It was a whirlwind, but soon the excitement turned to something much darker. His narcissistic tendencies emerged, and he began to manipulate and control me. He drained my energy, undermined my relationships, and stripped me of my career and the things that brought me joy. I was trapped by the ideal of marriage, thinking we couldn’t split up or divorce because we had promised to work through anything together. Little did I know, that commitment was one-sided. Three weeks after buying a house together, we split up. I was left with mountains of debt, a broken marriage, and a broken spirit. Untangling myself from his influence was long and painful, but it marked the start of my true healing journey.
That relationship forced me to confront the damaging beliefs I had held about myself and around relationships for so long. I had been carrying the weight of stories that told me I wasn’t worthy of love or happiness, and now I had to unravel those lies and rebuild my sense of self. During this period, I discovered mindfulness, somatic healing, and energy work, all of which played a crucial role in helping me peel back the layers of pain and shame. It was through these practices that I began to heal and transform.
But my journey with feeling unsafe didn’t start with this relationship. Several years earlier, I had endured a terrifying experience with a stalker, who made me feel like I had to disappear to survive. His presence in my life drove me into hiding—emotionally and physically—and for years, I lived in a state of shame and fear, too scared to express who I really was. Looking back, it became clear that I was always going to end up with someone who wouldn’t give me what I needed or deserved because I was desperate to be safe and loved.
Healing from these experiences required deep inner work. I had to learn to step out of hiding, reclaim my voice, and trust that I could be seen, loved, and accepted for who I truly was. As I began to heal, I felt a growing calling to help others do the same. I had worked in the arts, curated exhibitions, and led community projects, but it wasn’t enough. I knew my true path lay in helping people heal from emotional wounds and break free from toxic relationship patterns.
I immersed myself in therapy, and studying yoga, counseling, mindfulness, and energy healing, eventually discovering Quantum Energy Coaching (QEC). QEC offered a powerful way to reprogram the subconscious, creating deep and lasting transformation. It helped me break free from the patterns that had held me captive for so long, and I knew I had found the key to helping others heal, too.
Today, I’m based in Paris, where I met my long-term partner, someone with whom I’ve co-created a deeply loving and respectful relationship—something I believe I found through the work I did on myself. Through my work, I help individuals heal from trauma, break free from destructive relationships, and rediscover their self-worth. My approach integrates evidence-based mindfulness techniques, somatic healing, and QEC, providing a compassionate, culturally sensitive space for people to heal and transform their lives.
I’ve walked this path myself, and I know how isolating and painful it can be to feel lost in relationships, disconnected from your true self. But I also know that healing is possible, and that with the right support, you can break through the barriers that hold you back.
If you’re facing transitions, relationship struggles, or a desire to reconnect with your true self, I’m here to support you. Together, I can help you step into a life of clarity, peace, and fulfilment.
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